Archive for the ‘Awareness’ category

When Balance isn’t really Balance

June 27, 2008

I’ve written quite a bit about the importance of being balanced. I feel that to find success in any area of life, balance must be a part of the equation. But what kind of balance? Sometimes I can sit outside or take a day off or go somewhere else and feel like I have found balance. I can begin to hear my internal dialogue and interior silence grow. I can even have  the beginnings of an enraptured feeling where I think I have it “all figured out”.

Is what I’m feeling true or not? You’ve probably experienced this before and wondered the same thing. I think that the only way we know if we are in balance is to be in balance in the regular rhythms of life.

Moments of self-discovery are essential, but can actually be detrimental if we lead a life hopping from one of those moments to another. Everything in life is balanced on the pivot of “now”. I have no control over event in the recent or far past; neither do I have any control over things yet to happen. The only place that I have any ability to “do” anything is right here, right now.

If the only way I can feel “in balance” is to escape living life in community, I have become severely off balance in both perspective and execution of life.

John Maeda is becoming a mentor-at-large. He had a conversation with a colleague about insecurity. And I think it has great significance on the idea of real balance. He said, “The thing about insecurity, is that if you are too insecure, then you don’t grow – because you’re paralyzed by fear of failure. On the other hand, if you have no insecurity, then you don’t grow either – because your head is so big you can’t recognize your failures.” The colleague replied, “Balance in all.” John continued, “If you are in the middle, however, you have to shift towards the edges and oscillate a bit in order to know if you are centered.” He responded, “You can get lost in the middle. You need mentors to give you courage.”

To this John questioned, “But all your mentors tend to go away as you age.” The answer, “Yes, because you don’t need them anymore.”

The key is to embrace the oscillation around center/balance, always checking that the pendulum doesn’t swing too far in any direction.

Be like Jesus?

June 23, 2008

We all know and believe that Jesus had a purpose when He was born and in His death and resurrection He fulfilled His purpose. What does that mean for us when placed over the desire for us to “know our purpose” and to “be like Jesus”?

No I’m not proposing heresy, but I am asking that we look closer to the words we use. Cliches become cliches because of the truth they contain. However, through time, the words can lose their original meaning. Yes we all have a purpose, but it doesn’t mean we have only “one” purpose. Jesus fulfilled His purpose not by dying and being resurrected. He fulfilled His purpose by “doing what He saw His Father doing”, by divesting Himself of His own ego and allowing Himself to become “no-thing” that He might be used to do “some-thing”.

This is where we find the reality of our “purpose in life”. Our purpose is to have no purpose – only to do our Father’s bidding. To allow Paul’s old man to die, is to be released from the bondage to the egoic self, the false self and to “be” who God desires us to “be”.

Anthony De Mello in conversation

June 18, 2008

In a couple of weeks I’ll be speaking about my One Prayer. I’ll let it out now and say that my One Prayer is that we be Aware. This is a concept that has been a part of my thinking for several years now. One of the books and authors that has had a great impact has been Awareness by Anthony De Mello.

This week a section of the book came up in a conversation with Mike our Executive Pastor here at Lifepoint. I thought I would share this liberating section with you.

“The great Socrates said, ‘The unaware life is not worth living.’ That’s a self-evident truth. Most people don’t live aware lives. They live mechanical lives…’My that’s a lovely shirt.’ You feel good hearing that. For a shirt for heaven’s sake! You feel proud of yourself when you hear that. People come over to my center in India and they say, ‘What a lovely place, these lovely trees’ (for which I’m not responsible at all), ‘this lovely climate.’ And already I’m feeling good, until I catch myself feeling good, and I say, ‘Hey, can you imagine anything as stupid as that?’ I’m not responsible for those trees; I wasn’t responsible for choosing the location. I didn’t order the weather; it just happened. But “me got in there, so I’m feeling good about “my” culture and “my” nation. How stupid can you get?….Indian culture has produced great mystics. I didn’t produce them. I’m not responsible for them. They tell me, ‘ That country of yours and it’s poverty – it’s disgusting.’ I feel ashamed. But I didn’t create it. What’s going on? Did you ever start to think? People say, ‘I think you’re charming’, so I feel wonderful. I get a positive stroke …I’m going to write a book someday and the title will be . “I’m an Ass, You’re an Ass”. That’s the most liberating, wonderful thing in the world, when you openly admit you’re an ass. It’s wonderful. When people tell me, ‘You’re wrong.’ I say, ‘What can you expect of an ass?”

Hope this helped to lighten your load as much as it did mine!

Real Success

June 10, 2008

I’m a quote guy. I love quotes. In fact, I think quotes are better than just rattling off some thought or idea because they have come out of someone else’s mouth. How many times, parents, have you told and retold your child something only to have them come back after hearing the same thing from another individual…and doing it.

Somehow hearing things from outside our normal “tribe” gives the words more meaning. David McCullough says that “real success is finding your lifework in the work that you love.”

When you have found a way to do something you love and get paid doing it, you have found true success. Look at your situation right now and ask the hard question, “Do I love, really love what I’m doing?” “Is what I’m doing something I would do even if I didn’t receive a paycheck?”

The answers to those questions will reveal the reality of your situation. It may be that you are not where you want to be. If you are young, you have time to find what really gives you joy. If you are older, you know what gives you joy, but it may not be the same thing you are employed to do.

Re-evaluation is key in all of the processes of life. Culture and time move on and we must adjust to remain relevant and able to contribute. Ask the hard questions and resolve to put action behind the answers. As Rob Schneider says in every Adam Sandler movie, “You can do it!”

Re-invention

June 4, 2008

One of the things that successful organizations have to always keep before them is the value of, what I call, Thinking Forward.  While it is important to have your focus on the Now, it is also just as important to look ahead. In fact, one of the keys to Lifepoint’s continued relevance is it’s ability to review current culture and point out where the church can best impact the local community of Byron and Peach and Houston Counties.

To let you in on some thinking and how far we allow brainstorming to go, ask yourself some questions. What can Lifepoint do to positivley impact its locality more than it is currently doing? Don’t just think of adding programs, think deeper to what inner cultural changes can be made…or should anything be changed at all?

We all know that all things green are prevelant in culture, more now than at any other time. What could or should we do as a church to acknowledge this shift in culture?

What about the impact of a black candidate for President? How should or could we work toward racial unity in our local environment? 

What about the increase of Islam as a world religion and its misunderstanding in most conservative southern churches? What should or could we do to motivate a combining of efforts with Islamic, Jewish, Catholic and Protestant faiths to promote a better city and rural life for those around us?

These are not questions that most religious leaders want to listen to or acknowledge, but this is the life we live. These questions and more are on the minds and hearts of Middle Georgians. If we as a church do not seek to cultivate a community that at the very least entertains these questions, we will find ourselves running toward a road that ends with divisional walls separating the “us” from the “them”.

Lifepoint is a different place entirely. We challenge the “us/them” question consistantly. We see Macon in a downward spiral and ask, “What can we do?” We see the increase in gas prices and ask, “What can we do?” We look out and hear the discomfort and unease around us and ask, “What can we do?” But more than just ask the questions, when we have defined a place where we can make a difference, we do something.

No, we do not feed thousands and build hundreds of homes and provide countless jobs, but we do what we can. Often we as individuals look out and feel overwhelmed by the magnitude of problems that surround us. We become paralyzed and still. At Lifepoint we have been there too. Paralyzed and unsure of what action to take.

The difference is that we constantly relook and relook at circumstances to provoke us to do something. We have provided water for those in Africa and shelter for those in Houston County. Is there more to do? Certainly, and because of that don’t be suprised when things change.

The central guiding focus of Lifepoint is to provide an environment where those who do not know God or who have known and left can come and experience a place to grow into faith. It’s OK to not believe in God, or be gay, or have a less than stellar background. We know that the God we serve is large and His love is large. We also know that when allowed to question faith without resistance in a supporting environment, people find a God that loves them way more than they first thought, loves them where they are and walks with them throughout life. 

Re-invention and innovation go hand in hand. For a church to be innovative it must continually be re-inventing itself. Two results follow. One is that the core continues to evolve and change; the other is that new people who once thought that God had no place for them, suddenly find themselves immersed in a community of people set on making a difference one person at a time.

That is Lifepoint.

Do Something Amazing Each Day

May 6, 2008

I can’t remember where I saw this in the past few days. I hate not knowing because I’m usually a stickler for keeping track of those things. Be that as it may, this phrase, “Do something amazing each day”, has decided to take up dwelling in my mind-space.

The only thing I do recall is that the quote was by someone who was an amputee. He resolved that after his amputation he would “do something amazing each day”. I don’t know about you but most of my days really aren’t that amazing. I’ve had good days, really, really good days, but “amazing”?

I started to think and have been thinking of what would constitute an amazing day. What would have to have happened, been felt, said, etc. for a day to qualify as amazing?

One thing I think would have to be evident: that an action I either did, or was instrumental in having done, effected a real positive change in either my life or the ones I wanted affected.

One more quote that’s been lurking since I read it is that the only real eternal life there is is the present. The present does not have a past or future, it is timeless. Therefore, the present is the only time that is “out of time”. To truly embrace the eternal life we’ve been given is to live in the Now, the present.

Combine those two thoughts together and you have a pretty ambitious approach to living. Seriously though, think, just for a moment, what your life would look like if you introduced each of these contexts into your daily rhythm of living. Then imagine if we all took these two items to heart.

Naive? Maybe, but out of naivete can come some of the most profound and illuminating propositions for life.

Countdown to Q Conference

March 26, 2008

In 15 days I’ll be headed to the Big Apple for the second annual Q Conference. It is hosted by the Fermi Project and led by Gabe Lyons, the originator of the Catalyst Conference in Atlanta – a must if you haven’t experienced it yet. Last year Q was held in Atlanta at The Tabernacle – a great venue.

To find out about the presenters and their info. A great blog is Life of Linne. He has posted them in question format and it is a good refresher. One of the great thoughts early on last year came from Gabe. It talked about not being offended, but being provoked. He elaborated that provocation leads to engagement. Engagement is exactly where I want to be. Kevin Kelley was by far my favorite presenter. I had read a couple of his books and knew they were the inspiration for the Matrix Trilogy.

Being able to talk with him for a brief time was truly an honor. His mind is able to think ahead while still remaining in the present. Though his talent is in being able to spot the trends of the future, his words were startlingly relevant for today.

Awareness

March 24, 2008

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Several years ago I read a book by John Eldridge called, Wake the Dead. It was probably one of the most transformational books I have ever read. The key to its effect was a quote on the cover and repeated in the book itself. It was a quote by Saint Ireneas which stated that “the glory of God is man fully aware.” I could not get that quote out of my mind and soul.

The essence of the words continued to revolve around inside me as I sought out what it meant to be “fully aware”. I can’t say that I know even now what it truly means to be “fully aware”, but I do know that the journey toward the zenith of that quote has brought me into contact to many ideas and concepts that I would have probably shunned before.  In many other religious practices the idea of awareness is central.

Too often we live according to a mechanistic attitude based only on what has been done by and to us and correlated with what we desire to do or dread will be done in the future. I can only remember the past and hope for the future. Awareness can only be known in the current present I am living. To truly notice life as we pass through it is to glean wonder and awe from each moment, and in the gleaning really live.