Archive for the ‘Life’ category

What Does Your Future Look Like?

November 12, 2008

This past week I was rereading some books that I had stacked up, one was Turning To One Another by Meg Wheatley. Great book about the value of simple conversations and being presnt in those conversations. What struck me was a quote by Paulo Freire which said,

 “What if we discover that our present way of life is irreconcilable with our vocation to become fully human?”

If you are like me, I don’t often find myself thinking about what it means to be fully human. You may be asking the same question, but for Paulo, the answer is that the vocation, or calling, to be fully human is given to us and therefore signifies that we are part of a larger place.

To become fully human means that we live an open life that is filled with generosity. We become more human each time we make the decision to reach out instead of withdrawing into our personal sufferings and experiences.

We can only become fully human when we extend ourselves. When we create a world of secrecy and whispers around us, we lose life rather than gain life. When we chose to become aloof and non-communicative we allow our ego to reign and prevent our own growth. When we close ourselves off from those around us, we may pretend that we are doing it for our own good. The truth is that we lack the courage to engage real dialogue – conversations where I speak and then become silent and listen. Speeches do not give; they are not generous. Listening and opening ourselves up to one another are acts of generosity. These are the actions that lead to our becoming fully human and going from a human doing to a human being.

Words From Rumi

November 11, 2008

Rumi was a Persian poet who had and continues to have considerable influence in both the Middle East as well as here in America. His poems are known for their spiritual significance and poignancy. One that I felt would be good to share is short and to the point.

“Sit down and be quiet.
You are drunk, and this is the
edge of the roof.”

How often do we become caught up in the activities of the day, drunk if you will, and forget about the life we are living and the world around us. Taking time to consider and think about things consciously is a discipline that is lost from our collective accepted behaviour. Anyone can sit and say that they are thinking, but the truth of their words comes from the actions that follow.

Take some time today and think – if for just 5 or 10 minutes. Focus on the thinking and quiet yourself. Often when you return to your work things will seem clearer. This isn’t magic, it is the way we were meant to live our lives.

To Twitter or Not to Twitter?

November 10, 2008

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I think that Twitter is something that you either get or just think it’s nonsense. I’ve been both. The idea that anyone would actually want to follow my moves throughout the day was not only ludicrous, but also a little scary. I mean really, it’s like giving people an easy way to stalk you.

However, the more I keep researching the concepts of social interaction and connection, I see that this is just what we need. The big question is, “Do I want/need to Twitter? I haven’t come to any solid conclusions so I thought I would throw the question out to you. What do you think?

I’ve already drank the Facebook Kool-Aid, so why not Twitter too?

Fans Change the World

November 9, 2008

One of my hero’s is Kevin Kelly. Several moths ago I had the opportunity to meet him; it was a major highlight of my life. Kevin talked about the “1,000- True Fans” in an article. Basically, a true fan is someone who is a member of the tribe and cares deeply about you and your work. A true fan is the person who will choose to tell others about you, bring a friend to hear you.

In these days of Facebook and MySpace, the concept of a “friend” is increasingly gaining a cloud of vagueness. This is not so of true friends. If an artist has 1,000 true friends, he has enough to make a good living and help some others along the way. A true friend will not wait for the paperback. They want the hardback or first edition. The major key element that true fans bring is the added intercommunication with other fans. The true fans help to fan the words of the artist into a roar.

The takeaway hear is that you cannot allow yourself to become fixated on numbers. You do, however, want to seek to make and keep fans. A few of these precious true fans can change everything. They just need you to be brave enough to be You.

Crowds

November 8, 2008

I’ve been reading a lot about Crowds. Who they are, and who they are not. The most intriguing aspect of the Crowd conversation is that nobody is discounting that the power leverage has shifted. The ball is owned by the Crowd, and the Crowd determines what the next step is.

The nagging thought that I keep getting is that if a Crowd is simply a large mass of people, the ability to direct, sell, teach, even listen to them is practically impossible. The other thing about Crowds is that they can gather in an instant, but they can also disperse just as quick.

I’ve been to a couple of meetings with “guys in the know” about the next step in church development and where religion plays a part in that development. In every instance there is a focus on the Crowd. A push to get the Crowd involved and bring the Crowd to some central event. The sad part about this is that in essence there is no difference from “marketing to a Crowd” to the old stand on the street corner with a bullhorn approach in terms of truly making a difference.

Sure you may get your church’s name in the paper, but who reads papers anymore? You may create a “buzz”, but then you fall into the same need to have a bigger buzz each time you meet. Most organizations do their best at sending loads of money out to the crowd. I suppose that is OK if your intention is to become just like most organizations – bland and interchangeable. I suppose it is OK if you just want to surf the same wave every other guru is asking people to surf.

It’s not OK if you want to be anything other than “most”. If you have any desire to be remarkable – in other words that someone would have reason to “remark” about you – you have to focus not on Crowds, but on Tribes. As Seth Godin says, “A crowd is a tribe without a leader. A crowd is a tribe without communication…Smart organizations assemble the tribe.”

Life on Mars

November 6, 2008

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Had to take a moment and post about one of the best shows on ABC this season. I’m loving Life on Mars. At first I thought that the concept of a police drama set in the 70’s would be far too lame to endure. Yes it is another remake of a UK hit, but it is more. The first thing is that, to be personal for a moment, my first memories on this planet come from 1973. The amazing thing for me is that when I try to remember events back then they take on the same Polaroid orange hue that is the signature of the photography of this series.

Each episode finds me in a flash back moment. It is certainly surreal, but there is so much to comment on. Harvey Keitel was a perfect choice to play the police Captain. He embodies with furvor the ethos of the early seventies. The episodes also remind me how far we, as a country, have come in both our ability to relate to each other and our corporate world view.

The show also makes me think of my own kids. What will they remember of the early years of the 21st century? What shows will be on the media networks when they are my age? Will I be around to enjoy the juxtaposition of a time I will then remember quite well?

These questions are good ones, but for me, I want my kids to remember the positive events and occurrences that have happened and are happening around the world. Sure we have reason to be concerned about the future, but never before have we been empowered with the tools to make things happen.

The future is ours to write. We choose the font and whether it’s bold in CAPS or in italics. If you remember the seventies like me, check out Life on Mars, and enjoy a trip in the Wayback Machine!

Me, Myself & I Am

November 5, 2008

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Matthew Peters and Elisa Stanford’s new book, Me Myself & I AM is a new book that can become an experience of knowing yourself better than you thought possible. It is   

made up entirely of insightful, profound, and occasionally ridiculous questions.  Me, Myself, and I AM invites you to open to any page, open yourself to God, and be the author of your own story.

 

Questions range from spiritually intriguing—

You overhear God talking about you. What do hear him saying?

 

to thought-provoking—

You are on a long car trip with a close friend who is not a Christian and the conversation turns to faith. What is your biggest fear about what your friend will ask or say?

 

to challenging—

Do you believe that all of Jesus’s followers have a responsibility to tell others about him?

 

to just plain fun—

If your life before you became a Christian were a movie, its title would be:

Animal House

As Good as It Gets

The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

It’s a Wonderful Life

 

Me, Myself, and I AM will inspire, and get you thinking about your spiritual life from entirely new angles. You can use Me, Myself, and I AM as a reflective tool, a way to start conversations with friends and family, or as a spiritual time capsule to look back on years later. To sum it all up, this book is more than just another book. This book helps you to see better – to see yourself, God and the world around you through a new third person awareness lens. You won’t be disappointed in the results!

 

You can find Me, Myself & I AM at Amazon, Books a Million, Barnes and Nobles, or your local Christian bookstore.

It’s my Birthday…again!

October 31, 2008

Yes, I’m a Halloween baby. For years and years you’ve celebrated my birthday unknowingly. For those who didn’t know, some questions they’ve had have now been answered! Sometimes we have birthdays that are good and others that are bad, but today has been a great day for me. I woke up this morning and had dozens of birthday wishes on Facebook, then I had several people call and then topped it off by meeting at the Holton’s house for trick-or-treating and some good time together (there was also a cake and some good punch!).

So much as happened over the past year to be grateful for, that there simply isn’t enough time or space. Most of it boils down to good times with good friends and being able to be myself. For years I tried to fit into a mold that was made by other people, that was difficult and stressful. The transition to being yourself may be hard, but the “being” yourself part is an indescribably simpler way to live. My friends and I may not agree on everything (we don’t for the record), but the thing we do agree on is that we are friends. Being connected with people in an organic way seems to be the antidote for most of the stressful junk that most of us wade through each day.

When I think of people I want to hang out with or talk to I think of the people who are a part of Lifepoint. The best birthday present of all is to know that true friends are just a phone call away – in fact sometimes they have called before I did! This next year is certainly going to have some new stuff in it. There will be new economic, political and financial events, but in each of the different experiences awaiting in the following year, I know I’ve got people who care for me, and who I care for, that will be sharing in the experiences with me.

Swing Dance Time!

October 29, 2008

Amy and I have wanted to take dancing lessons for a long time, and now, thanks to the Crockers we can. Tuesday night was a blast! About 32 people came together to learn how to Swing dance. We all brought canned goods which will be used to provide food for some needy families this winter season. For an hour and a half we danced and danced. Some had good rhythm and some were a little rhythm challenged, but we all had fun.

One of the things that I am enjoying the most, is being able to connect with people outside of the Sunday meeting. There is so much that we can gain from each other just by spending time and listening. I wish I could tell you that I left with no aches, but I’d be lying. My hips were reacting to movements that were foreign to them, but again, it was a great night of fun! I can’t wait for next Tuesday.

Facebook Magic

October 27, 2008

OK, I was a late adopter as far as Facebook is concerned, but I’m a full fledged fan now. At first the question that goes through your mind is, “how much of my life should I put out there?”; the second is, “who in the world would want to know what I’m doing?” The most interesting thing that has happened to me is that I have reconnected with people I haven’t seen in 20 years. From time to time I would catch myself saying that I should have kept up better with this person or that person, but there really wasn’t anything I could do. I didn’t know where they lived or who they married, but in a matter of days on Facebook we’ve found each other.

This phenomenon comes on the heals of my post about Seth Godin’s new book Tribes. Great book you should read, but more importantly, it gave purpose to the myriad of social networking sites on the web. For a long time I just didn’t see the point in keeping track of other people. It kind of seemed like stalking with permission. Now I see the value of having one of your tribes easily accessible.

We were made to be interactive people. We were given the craving to talk about what we are doing and listen to what others are doing. Of course there can be problems, but when a social networking site such as Facebook works smoothly, the effects can seem almost magical.

You can check out my Facebook page or send friend request here.