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The New Trinity

January 15, 2009

Provocative title, I know, but for me, there are some things that I’m just beginning to see. A few weeks ago, a friend offered the use of a river house for me to think and collect and look to the future. Many ideas came out of that time and this is one of those ideas.

I’ve grown up in church and for the vast majority of my life worked within the church as volunteer or staff member. Yet again a majority of that time was spent in “leading worship”, a description I have never liked. Upon stepping back from the noise of church life and examining my own life, I’ve made the following observation. We are taught about the trinity of God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit, but in the day to day activities of the church, across the world, there is another trinity that perhaps has more credibility.

The first in this New Trinity is Religion itself. The interesting additional thought to each part of the New Trinity, is that each can be and is percived differently based on the context of the observer. For now, we’ll just do an overview. Religion is the organized, strategic systemic context that sets the framework for our interaction with The Other or God.

The second is Spirituality. Spirituality is a buzzword for those who are interested in finding God, but who don’t want Religion. Spirituality is decidedly inward in focus. It is an awareness of the fact that there is more to life than what we see. Much more emotional and individualistic than group Religion.

The third is Worship, one of the most misunderstood words in  the religious glossary. Worship is both traditional and orderly, as well as experiential and mystical. It is celebrative, very inclusive and at the same time experienced by the individual on an extremely intimate scale.

We see the three individually, but like the orthodox definition of the Trinity, I believe this Trinity as well works best as it becomes One. This is something I haven’t seen, at least on a regular basis, but it is something that I believe can be seen, and will be seen.

Just as the human is body, mind and spirit and functions as a whole, the Church is religion, spirituality and worship and can function as a whole. As we listen to what science is discovering about the spiritual nature of man, the higher level teachings of Jesus, which often are mirror images of teachings of other timeless religious leaders, will become more of a possibility in our minds.

The Flow of Compassion

January 10, 2009

One of the big thoughts in my mind currently is to better understand how we can create, instead of react to, our future. In scripture Jesus talks about “abundant life” and many have sought to define just what he meant by those words. There is also in scripture a dialogue with Jesus where he mentions, almost in passing, that the “things I do, you will do more”.

I don’t know about you, but for me, most of my life in church has been spent looking for a way to live that life and do the the things Jesus spoke of. We can expand and look at other scriptures from other major religions and find similar passages. Yet in all of this religious speak, for evidence we have a handful of people who have impacted the world.

It is my belief that there is a way for each of us to live life in a “flow” of exemplary moments that work together to bring about a change for the common good. Some may say I’ve lost it or that I’m naive, but I truly think that we live life on auto-pilot most of the time, and if we would learn how to “live” we would see things that each of us internally desire but externally are impoverished as to both the “what” question and the “how”.

I’ve said before that the “how” is not my domain, and I believe it more today than ever before. One thing that I have uncovered is the role comapssion has to play in living a life full of little miracles.

We all know we should have compassion on others, but the most important I’ve found is compassion for ourselves – present and past. The biggest lesson for me in my own developmental path has been to learn to display compassion toward myself for past shortcomings and failures.

This is one of the greatest steps to head you forward on your own path of developmental transformation. We must let go and let life “flow” through us instead of trying to unsuccessfully control our lives. Once the past is dealt with, the present and future are free to move forward unentangled.

There Is No Regret

January 7, 2009

When we live as though there are things we would like to change about our past – regrets in our lives- we are deciding to reject the coinciding moments in our lives that have made us the people we have become.

If we choose, instead, to embrace the path we’ve been on, whether conscious or unconscious, we then accept the entirety of our lives – the total sum of our being.

Once done, this embrace puts to rest much of the internal chatter that sits unresolved in our minds. Unresolved because it resides in a zone outside our ability to change. The past is done, but the present is available as a pen to author our future.

The real beauty in music is not the notes, but the space between the notes, the silence intermingled with sound that brings balance. So in our lives, as we open up space in our mind, we will begin to see the beauty that has always resided in each of us, but because of busyness remained hidden and unnoticed.

Don’t Name It – Just DO It!

January 3, 2009

This is going to be a somewhat short post. There are so many things that I am excited about this coming year. Many I will be laying out in detail here first. For that reason, if you haven’t already subscribed to this blog, click on the “subscribe” link to the right. When you do this, you’ll be the first to know what’s going on.

 

The core of my thought today is that as I’ve looked at the need for learning organizations in the past, (you can check out here, and here, and here for more), the key component has moved from the community to the individual. When the individual is working better, the community that he or she is a part of runs better.

 

Often we try to give these things names, but honestly names aren’t important. The important thing is for “people to find their own language for describing the intent of their efforts in ways that work in their own context, as part of developing their own strategies and leadership practices. How we talk about our work matters. But the key lies in our personal journey of reflection, experimentation, and becoming more open, not the words we use. It is the reality we create, not how we label it, that matters.”

 

Don’t worry about what to call what you do, just do the thing that you can’t NOT do. In embracing yourself, you embrace all and that WILL change the world!

Noticing

January 2, 2009

Noticing is something that I’d bet many of us do too little of. We have many items on our plate, and we justify that we simply don’t have the time. I want to offer a daily opportunity to reengage in your real life. I’ll bet that after doing these simple adjustments, you’ll feel like a fog has lifted and clarity has come to your life.

 

First, take your watch and set a time either every half hour or every hour and have your alarm go off. When it does, just take a few seconds to notices how you feel, even if you feel irritated by the interruption of the alarm!

 

Next, as you move from one activity during the day to another, notice how you feel about ending one activity and transitioning to the other.

 

Also, during mealtimes, think about pleasant moments and identify why they are pleasant. Conversely, think about the moments that were the least pleasant and identify why. Another thing is to ask yourself if you were aware of the pleasant or unpleasant moments when they occurred.

 

Lastly, notice how you feel after meaningful interactions with other people.

 

You might want to tackle one of these at a time – maybe one a week – and notice how the fog lifts and how clarity comes to every day moments.

Acting Out of the Box

January 1, 2009

One of the things that I’ve been thinking about lately is how often we take things that are, at first revolutionary, and then relegate them to the role of a staple item. As an example, a business could have made a name for themselves by doing a particular ting or producing a particular product. Eventually, the business prides themselves on being revolutionary by producing the same product.

 

There is a lot to be said for thinking outside the box. Hundreds of books have been written about it, and many are good. The subject of thinking outside of the box is a must in today’s business world, but it takes another step to really make a difference. Thinking is important, but it’s not enough. Thinking is passive. The only way things get done and change really happens is when we stop thinking out of the box and start acting out of the box.

 

Look at your own situation at the beginning of the year. I’m certain you’ve thought about a lot of things you want to do or change. Take one, an in the next five minutes do some action that brings you closer to making it happen. It could be as simple as a phone call or an email. You need to make the call – so make it.

 

Let 2009 be a year of action – and let me know what you’re doing to make 2009 the best year we’ve ever seen!

Between Christmas and New Years

December 29, 2008

The days that sit between Christmas and New Years have always intrigued me. For months we’ve looked toward the Christmas frenzy and then, in those few days, Christmas is over and the New Year is coming. It is in these days that reflection can come – in between a few naps!

 

Reflection is good and natural at the end of anything, but especially at the end of a year. The most typical feeling I’ve encountered from people can best be explained by St. Catherine of Siena in her dialogues. God is reported to have said to her, “I am He who is; and you are she who is not.” Have you ever felt that way? Have you ever experienced your is-not-ness?

 

If you look back on this year and notice items missing or experiences lost; if you’ve come face-to-face with your is-not-ness, recognize it, reframe your plans and reimagine what the next year can be.

The Greatest Words Ever Spoken

December 28, 2008

greatest words

A new book by Steven K. Scott, the author of the best-selling book The Richest Man Who Ever Lived, is entitled, The Greatest Words Ever Spoken. It includes over 1,900 statements by Jesus organized under more than 200 different topics.

The subtitle is – “Everything Jesus said about you, your life, and everything else.” When you read this book , you encounter the living Christ in a way few books allow. When you read the statements of Jesus, unencumbered by additional commentary or explanation, the truth, power and impact of His words become even more evident.

You read what Jesus said about Himself, about His followers, and about eternity. This book is a resource whose value will only increase each time you reach for it and read the “words in red”.

During His time here on earth, Jesus made remarkable promises to each of us who would hear His words and follow them. This book gives us the perfect tool to do exactly that, all the time providing a fresh view of the incomparable Christ.

This book is available at Amazon, Barnes and Noble and your favorite local Christian bookstore.

Christmas Is Coming…

December 21, 2008

In just a few minutes I’ll be headed out of town one more time before Christmas. I can’t believe how fast this year has gone by, and how much has changed in this past year. 2008 will go down in my book as one of the most transformative ever. There is so much I could say, but for now, I have to thank all of the people at Lifepoint who have given of themselves throughout 2008 to see people experience the true unconditional love of Christ.

When we embrace the power we hold when we show love to another person, and then through the embracing of the idea really literally embrace people, we change the world – or at least someones world. This Christmas, remember the past, celebrate the present and look expectantly into the future.

The future is yours to write, you hold the pen and can define 2009. I pray that next year holds in its mystery some of the greatest moments of your life!

Living Rich For Less

December 17, 2008

Living Rich

So you want to own the home you love, make memories on wonderful vacations with family or friends, finance college educations, and help others too?
 
You can—starting here and now.
 
With lively humor, proven know-how, and practical principles for financial health, Living Rich for Less helps you stretch your dollars to realize the lifestyle of your dreams. Ellie Kay’s entertaining and enlightening examples show you simple steps to save, spend, and give smart, and her three main principles are undergirded by dozens of effective rules and hundreds of Cha-Ching Factor™ tips that keep or put money in your pocket.
 
Ellie knows what it’s like to be financially-strapped or struggling, wanting to be the Joneses but feeling as poor in spirit as in pocketbook. She went, within two and a half years, from being a new wife and mom with $40,000 in consumer debt and seven children (and college educations) to support, to being completely debt-free and within fifteen years able to pay cash for eleven different cars, give away three of those cars, buy two five-bedroom houses (moving from one to the other) and nicely furnish each, take wonderful vacations, dress her family in fine fashion; and support more than thirty non-profit organizations in more than a dozen different countries, giving away more than $100,000.
 
Isn’t that the kind of transformation to a rich life that you want?
 
Living Rich for Less helps anyone get there in our taxed-out, maxed-out times. Because financial security doesn’t mean just genuine prosperity, but being able to live luxuriously, give generously, and care for yourself as well as the others around you.
 
Why keep up with the Joneses when you can be them?

You can get this great timely book at
www.Amazon.comwww.ChristianBook.com, or  www.FamilyChristian.com.