Archive for the ‘Influence’ category
April 24, 2009
This question concerns your work right now, your current occupation or place of employment. Take thirty seconds and answer this next question”
“What part of your work gives you the greatest feeling of importance, pride or satisfaction? What are your peak experiences in your work environment?”
This is a very interesting question. Again, there are no wrong answers, but there is a typical response noted by most. It is almost inevitable that your response to this question has something to do with helping other people. This speaks into who you are and what your desires are for your own life. The moments that you have the greatest satisfaction with your job, are the moments you should seek more of. You should do this because these moments are the most aligned to you life’s purpose and desires.
Categories: Awareness, Belief, Creativity, Goals, Influence, Life
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April 19, 2009
This next question has to do with what you should do with your life. In the next thirty seconds answer this question:
“What have you always wanted to do but have been too afraid to attempt?”
This is a core question that reaches deep into who you are. Something to remember is that the fact that you have wanted to do this could mean that this is what you are to do. Whatever is your hearts desire could be what you are supposed to do with your life. The real answer here is that your experiences and relationships have been directing you toward something that is one step ahead of you. Fear of failure is the only thing holding you back from doing that thing you have always wanted to do.
You always have the choice to proceed forward or hesitate.
Categories: Awareness, Belief, Context, Creativity, Goals, Influence, Life
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April 15, 2009
This next question is similar to the last one but involves a different commodity – time. Take a minute to answer this question:
“What would you do, how would you spend your time if you knew you had six months to live?”
I’m not talking about being sick and dying, I’m talking about perfect health for six months then death. This is a question that goes back to your values, the things that are important to you. If you would do something like spend more time with the family, then do it. I would bet that no one will answer that they would spend more time at work. When faced with only six months to live, most would chose to spend more time with their family or more experiences that they have been putting off.
This question answers what you really should be doing now. Take that trip; spend more time with your family. Typically if you planned out the trip you think you can’t take, you can. The next question will peer even deeper into who you are and what you were born to do.
Categories: Awareness, Context, Goals, Influence, Life
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April 11, 2009
This next question is one that I’ve heard over the years from many different places. When this question is placed inside this list of questions it is given more importance because is causes the light that is being turned on inside of us to come more and more into focus. The next question you should answer in sixty seconds.
“What would you do, or how would your life change if you had won $1 million dollars tax-free?”
I’m not talking about putting your money in the bank and living on interest. How would your life change? The important thing here is that if you would change your job if you had a million dollars, you are in the wrong job. If you keep saying that you would leave and go somewhere else and quit your job if you won the lottery, you should quit your job now. Your answer is saying that you don’t like your job, but that if you had the freedom to chose that you perceive a chunk of money would give you, you would chose to quit your job.
Life is too short to waste time working a job you dislike. You are doing yourself and your current employer (even if you are self-employed) a disservice. The thought that it could never happen doesn’t change the fact you wrote it down. And the action of writing it down is proof enough that it is attainable.
I’ll say that again: The action of writing it down is proof enough that it is attainable. Think about that for a few days!
Categories: Awareness, Belief, Creativity, Goals, Influence, Life
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April 6, 2009
Take the next thirty seconds and answer the following question:
“What are the 3 most important goals you have for your life right now?”
Don’t spend more time qualifying your answers. Like the last post, write down what comes from your gut – your center. When you answer quickly you may even surprise yourself with your answers. When you let the answers come out unfiltered, an authentic view of yourself and knowledge of your real wants and desires will come out. The key is to always remember that there are no wrong answers.
Some will think that if they write down Money or Influence as goals that somehow thoses things are “bad”. The real truth is that money and influence are things that can produce positive good results if used correctly.
Categories: Awareness, Belief, Context, Creativity, Goals, Influence, Life
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March 30, 2009
Over the last few weeks I’ve gone through some notebooks that I’ve written in the past. Like every experience and truism we find in life, the next few blog posts have come from a variety of sources in the past. They area series of questions that, if answered honestly, can greatly benefit your life. Some will seem like no-brainers, but despite a desire to skip over and not participate in an exercise, press ahead and asnswer the questions and act on the answers. My hope is that you benefit from the time you spend in honest evaluation of you real wants and desires.
Remember there are no wrong answers.
The first question is:
“What are the 5 things that you value the most in life?”
Answer in sixty seconds quickly. Put down your gut answers, because those are the most truthful to who you are.
Whatever you wrote out as your five top values can change in the next few months or years, but for now it will give some direction and purpose and help answer some of the “Why?” questions in your life.
Categories: Awareness, Creativity, Influence, Life
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March 4, 2009
Toward the end of his life, St. Francis told his fellow brothers, “I have done what is mine to do; may Christ teach you yours”. This quote has had a profound impact on the direction and fulfillment of my life. Often we find ourselves invested in the lives of others. We are wrapped up, litteraly, in the affairs of others. So much so that we let our own lives cruise along without much personal attention to our own direction.
When we are allowed into the lives of others it is easy to find the pull of “fixing” and “helping” them irressistible. We love projects, and people can be the best projects out there; especially when they step back and let us do the work for them. Many times we can see instant gratification when counsel is taken and is a success.
The problem with this relationship is that it easily evolves into a dependant existence and often results in some sloppy care given to yourself because you are “helping” someone else. It may seem hard, but your life is the only one you can truly control, and the only one you are responsible for. Caring for your own life and path is the greatest thing you can do for yourself and for those who you find yourself connected to.
Categories: Awareness, Belief, Context, Creativity, Influence, Leadership, Life
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February 26, 2009
The scriptures teach us to “do unto others as we would have them do to us”, but often we end up experiencing people doing to us what we expect them to do to us. Depending on our outlook and attitude, we can expect and experience negative things or positive things. Like it or not, we are the authors of our own lives. Many will not want to accept this, mostly this is due to an unwillingness to accept responsibility for our lives. It is much easier to let someone else determine our lives that to do the hard work and direct our own paths.
If some other worldly force is pulling and prodding me in whatever direction it wants to, then – success or failure – it’s not my fault. The end result is just marked down to as being “supposed to happen”. The truth is that life itself is difficult and requires hard work from us. Our response should be to pu;; ourselves up from our bootstraps and live life to its fullness, not wimp out and let “whatever will be…..be.”
Categories: Awareness, Belief, Creativity, Influence, Life, Rhythm
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February 21, 2009
The book, Iconoclast, by Gregory Berns, is an incredible amalgam of information concerning both the brain and the action centers of the individual. Dr. Berns describes an iconoclast as someone who “does something that others say can’t be done”. What follows is a listing of different people who have done just that.
One of the positive aspects to this book is its delivery of technical information in a way that is accessible to anyone. Distilled down into themes we all know such as perception and fear, he makes distinctions about the imagination and mindset that separate the ordinary and the free-thinkers that define the term “Iconoclast”.
Categories: Awareness, Belief, Context, Creativity, Cultural Ideas, Influence, Life
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February 16, 2009
I wrote a post on this topic previously and deleted it, thinking it was the right thing to do. I folded to a skewed opinion of another person and shouldn’t have. I now know that it was a mistake to delete it. The key in leadership – both individual and corporate – is not to make decisions rashly and based on emotion. The basic concept in this section from the incredible book from Seth Godin, Tribes, is that there comes a time in leadership when, if your vision becomes cloudy, you must step aside and let those who are assured of direction lead.
When a leader is unwilling to let go of the reins of leading when their own direction is in doubt, a flag should go up and be acted upon by those within the organization. Not acting will only serve to cripple the organization. Without solid leadership, the leader only serves to move the organization more quickly in a direction neither he nor the ones he leads are aware of.
Great leaders know when to move on within the organization. Great leaders also know when they have reached the boundary of ability and can no longer adequately lead and move on outside the organization. When a great leader cannot let go, that leader sinks in both further ablilty and continued influence.
Categories: Awareness, Creativity, Influence, Leadership, Life
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